Transitions

Lindsey

Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters of our lives won’t have a title until much later – Bob Goff

When going through a transition, there is an inherent ebb and flow. Of emotions. Action taken. Fear, joy, stress, excitement, uncertainty. Sometimes all felt in one single minute.

LindseySuch is how I am feeling now. I’m leaving San Francisco in less than a month to move back home to San Diego. Although it is a wonderful move, everything now is bittersweet. I want to savor each moment, each feeling, each place, each view of where I am in the city. And for some reason, I mostly want to be doing this on my own.

I’m continually pulling myself back from floating around in the future, which is either filled with excitement and joy over what my life will/could be like in less than 30 days or burdened with fear and the lack of having it all figured out. It’s as though my brain is doing some sexy, high-energy salsa dance between the present and future.

I don’t find myself dwelling too often on the past year and a half in Napa and San Francisco. It seems like yesterday I was in Napa or just moving to SF, but it also seems like eons ago. I was a different person then. Young and unsure. Swayed more easily than I am now. Over this past year I’ve felt heart ache, my temper raging, my soul filled with contentment, my eyes watered with tears, my heart bursting with joy and my senses filled with all things new and undiscovered.

But I’ve learned this past year and a half. I’ve grown. I’ve transformed from a young woman to a woman. An adult doing adult things. There’s a groundedness and assuredness in my spirit that wasn’t there before.

Although I still find myself “looking for the adult in the room” sometimes. Anyone else?

What I’m most proud of transforming this past year is my voice. A voice that I’ve nurtured, developed and grown into. My ability over the past several months to lean into some weird and wonderful, dark and beautiful emotions to discover what is really inside me. What really want. What fills me with joy, passion and happiness. Not what I think should fill me with joy, passion and happiness. Not what others, despite their good intentions, think should and will fill me with joy, passion and happiness. Those are all very different things.

I’m proud that I’ve learned that my path is my own. I’m in control of my life. I respect and take to heart what people say and the advice they give. And I can ask for help when I need it. But I am far too savvy now (or strong-willed?) to be confined by other’s expectations of what a life should look like. Or the path you take, so to speak.

As Louise Hay says (and this is my version of it): “I love myself enough to go beyond my parents’, family’s, friends’ and society’s limitations.”

I don’t mean to say my parents, friends, family and society have placed outrageous restrictions, limitations and pressure on me about what I should do with my life. Although there are spoken and unspoken expectations I feel, I’ve been blessed with an incredibly supportive, loving family and community.

Regardless, there are more conventional or unconventional paths people can follow. But that’s their story and choice, not yours.

I’ve learned there is no one “right” path. There is a “right” path for everyone and that is the one they decide to take. It is the one that is right for them. What’s right, logical and fulfilling to one person may not be that way for another. And that’s the beauty of life.

I’m proud that I’m following my voice and truth. Despite not knowing all that it is I want to do. Despite not seeing my path clearly. The vision is there. The emotions are there… But the stepping stones to get there are a bit hazy and uncertain.

But rather than giving up on my vision because the path isn’t clearly defined at this moment (will it ever be?), I know by focusing on my what and why and taking positive action in ways that feel aligned and fulfilling to me, the “hows” will become very clear.

View at the Chart HouseI can embrace the belief that I have no idea what I’m doing with my life, or I can say what is full of actual truth: I know exactly what I am doing with my life because I am following what I know to be true to me.

It’s easy to fall into the “I don’t know what I’m doing with life” slump, whether you’re being humorous or serious about it, because that is the simplest answer and emotion to feel. It’s harder to believe for yourself and explain to others, “So this is what I want, how I’m getting there is unknown, but this is what I’m doing now and even though it’s not all clearly defined, I’m happy because I’m following my gut.”

But in whose eyes is that phrase, “I don’t know what I’m doing with my life” even looked upon? Is it your eyes or society’s? Look upon your life with your eyes, not through an external view. That’s not the most positive or productive one.

Looking at your life through the eyes of society or your family is morphed. It breeds limiting beliefs and leaves you feeling stuck between what they want, and what you want and know to be true for you.

In my opinion, if YOU are happy and content with what you’re doing, no matter what it is, keep doing it. It’s your life. If you’re not happy and content, do something. And don’t “do something” based off of what other people want for you or are telling you to do. Do what YOU want to do. It’s your chance to create something that’s aligned with you and your happiness. It’s an opportunity to fly, not fall into an abyss.

Look upon your life through your eyes. Tune in to your own intuitive wisdom. By doing so you’ll be gifted with one of the most precious realizations: you know exactly what you’re doing.

One-Word Inspiration: A little goes a long way

Lindsey

I was given these words as a prompt…what do each of them mean to me? Well, let me tell you below.

HOPE
REGRET
HOME
CHOICE
ABUNDANCE
SECRET

Hope is the flicker of light that warms your soul and keeps you moving forward, even when you feel like you’re falling backward. Hope turns to abundance and truth when you firmly believe in your hope and know it will manifest into being.
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Regret is the thing I am scared of the most in my life.
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Home. It’s where my heart is and always will be. Home is where I am the puzzle piece fitting exactly into the puzzle. Home is on stage performing. I feel more at home when I am open and vulnerable on a stage that when I am sitting in an audience watching.
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Lindsey in SevillaChoice. I believe (almost*) everything is a choice. Our emotions, mindset, thoughts, patterns, actions, decisions, reactions, words we say and write. The words we choose to hear and believe, from ourselves and others. We always have a choice. There is always a way out (or in.) There is always a choice that you can make. If you make the “wrong” one, you can make a “right” one again. We all have a choice. It is one of the most empowering and powerful things when you realize you have a CHOICE. Don’t like your job? Make a choice to realize that you deserve to do what sets your soul on fire and what makes you feel happy and healthy. Make a choice to make a change and do what is aligned with your truth. Make a choice to take action in that direction. Make a choice to not accept anything less that what you WANT and dream of. Choice. You have a choice. So make one and know you’re making it. And know you can un-make it as well. But don’t sit in limbo waiting for other people or the Universe to choose for you. It’s your life, YOU choose what you want to do with it.
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*I know not all things, including emotions and certain circumstances, are not our choice. I do believe however, we have a choice in how we react to those emotions and circumstances…what actions we take and what we believe. 
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Abundance is waiting for you around every corner. You just have to see it in front of you. You have to believe that it is there and will always be there. You will always have abundance (whatever that means for you), even it feels like it’s out of reach.
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Secret. The secret to happiness is living your truth. Living your life on your terms and in alignment with your voice and what ignites your soul from the inside out. There’s always a way. There is no right path for everyone- that’s the secret. The “right” path for you is what you know is right for you…not anyone else.
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What do these words mean to you? Did anything resonate with you?

Transportation for a Badass

Transportation for a badass
Pearl

Mr. Pearly Birdie

First off, Pearly bird wanted to say “hello!”

“Sometimes your only available transportation is a leap of faith.” – Margaret Shepard

You have to take that leap of faith out of your comfort zone in order to make any changes in your current situation or to welcome any transformation into your life.

Yes, it can be scary. But I’d rather take a “leap of faith” that turns out to be a dud than walk around the rest of my life wondering “What if…?” At the very least you learn something about you and/or the world, right? Life is an adventure. It’s a story YOU write yourself.

So be daring, you badass and take that leap of faith into the next chapter of your life, you know, the one you *really* want to pursue.

We create these stories in our head that the whole world will collapse if we take that scary next step…like we’ll lose our friends, our parents won’t approve, we will lose our money, we’ll regret the decision the second we’ll make it, we will fail, our birds will hate us….we’ve all had those stories take up valuable real-estate in our minds.

Those are cute stories, but that’s just what they are: STORIES. Not reality. STORIES. Write yourself a new story, one that is filled with lots of success (whatever that word means to YOU), celebration, dreams manifesting, people cheering, an abundance of money and friends, and one where your birdie always loves you. Hold this new story and vision close to your heart and mind as you take that leap of faith.

You’ll realize it wasn’t that scary after all.

If you need support in re-writing your story, talk to me! It’s my passion and purpose to help support badasses like you through these transition, story-rewriting times in your life. I want you to be the best version of YOU. <3 Set up a complimentary 30-minute call with me here to see how I can support you: https://calendly.com/lindseyoconnor

Need your daily dose of vitamins? Drink Vitamin Water!

Vitamin Water
Vitamin WaterMarketing is a very powerful thing. But being a conscious consumer and being aware of what you put into your body is an even more powerful thing.
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I was at the grocery store last night when I saw these Vitamin Waters on the shelves. I had just finished dinner and a margarita with my friend at a nearby restaurant, so I was feeling a little feisty…thus me actually taking a moment to look at the ingredients in a “Vitamin” Water and seethe silently in the aisle. …Also why I decided to post this *today* and not last night in the moment. 😂
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You would think “Vitamin Water” is relatively healthy. Getting ALL your vitamins in one deliciously flavored bottle. I mean, it’s called “Vitamin Water” and many of them are super-charged with things like acai and pomegranate, “vital-t” and squeezed lemonade. The colors are also pretty snazzy too…

But look BEYOND the label and marketing…this Vitamin Water is one of the furthest things from healthy.  

32g of SUGAR
#1 ingredient? Water.
#2 ingredient? Sugar (“crystalline fructose”)
#3 ingredient? Sugar (“cane sugar”)
LESS THAN .5% of …….a long list of “vitamins” and “natural flavors” (aka not natural flavors)
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LESS THAN .5% is the “vitamin” part of this drink.
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The American Heart Association says the MAXIMUM amount of *added* sugars you should eat in a day is 25g for women and 37.5g for men. (Although, in my opinion, you should always keep added sugar intake as low as you can.)
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This drink has 32g of sugar in it. ONE drink. That doesn’t include anything else you are eating that day.

Guys. If you eat a relatively healthy diet throughout the day, get your servings of vegetables, fruits, whole grains, protein and good fats…you will have ALL of these vitamins and SO much more. Bonus? You’re not putting crap in your body.

Ideally, we would avoid things like “Vitamin Water” and everything else with processed sugar. But I know that’s not realistic for many of us (including me!), nor is it fun.

I’m all about BALANCE. Be conscious and informed about what you put in your body. Eat as much fresh, unpackaged foods as possible. Drink your Shakeology. But also enjoy going out for ice cream, having a drink with your friend, baking your significant other’s favorite cookies (maybe with a healthier recipe?? ;) ), eating greasy pizza at 1am on a Friday night. But don’t make it a daily thing.

Health is about balance. Healthy comes from knowing your body and knowing what you put into your body. Be CONSCIOUS of marketing and labeling and understand that you’ll probably want to avoid stuff like “Vitamin Water,” or drink once in a great while.

Hell, make your own “Vitamin Water” by putting fresh fruit slices and berries in your water. I LOVE putting lemon and lime or raspberries in my water.

Eat real, fresh, whole foods and that will be all the “Vitamin Water” your body will need <3

When It’s Ok to Ditch “The Plan”

Granada

Granada“Friends and partners to celebrate life with, abundance to enhance any adventure, and mountains to perch atop, Lindsey, all arrive when you dwell upon the celebration, the adventure, and the view. Not names, lotteries, or the path you think wisest. Yes, Lindsey, you can have whatever you want, anything. Just don’t confuse what you want with how you’re going to get it.” –The Universe

THAT LAST LINE THOUGH. Once again, The Universe popping his/her/its(?) sweet head in my email inbox with a reminder to not focus on HOW to make things happen.

Focus on the WHAT, and the HOW will come to you.

And I’m pretty certain the path you take to get to your WHAT will be full of unicorns, baby animals, organic dark chocolate growing from trees and a free membership to the wine club of your choice and Uptown Funk playing on repeat.

Or maybe that’s just me….

Do you ever get caught up in the HOW to make things happen? So much that it hinders you from actually doing anything productive to reach your goals? Your dreams?

It holds us back from taking action to actualize our dreams because we think we need to first figure out HOW we’re going to make it happen…that we first need to figure out a very detailed plan and THEN we can start doing.

Screw that. That’s a one-way express ticket to Stagnant-Do-Nothingville.

Just DO. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have a clue HOW you’re going to make your WHAT happen.

If you start to take action in ways that feel aligned with your soul and higher purpose, and take actions that make you a little scared (that means you’re outside of your comfort zone- huzzah!), the HOW will appear and the path to your what will become more clear.

Take that first step. Doesn’t matter what it is. But take it. Even a little baby step will make a significant impact. And it will also tell The Universe you’re not screwing around anymore and you’re ready to receive more clarity on your HOW.

What step will you take today!? Share in the comments below!!

Are you unsure of what step to take? Talk to me!! We’ll figure it out together. #badassteamwork

5 Secrets to Manifesting and Visualizing #likeaboss

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Today we are discussing one of my favorite topics: manifestation and visualization. I LOVE talking about this shizzle and I know it can be very powerful if done consistently.
1. Write down everything that you DO want. So often we focus on what we don’t want, that we actually aren’t 100% sure on what we do want and would like to manifest. Get cozy with all the nitty, gritty details that you DO want. Down to the color of your dream sofa, what your co-worker’s name will be, what pictures are on your desk and what nickname your awesome-sauce partner calls you.
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2. Create a vision board. Be creative! Cut out pictures and paste them on another paper that you hang somewhere and see ALL ZEE TIME! Make boards on Pinterest, make a collage for your desktop picture, make a picture for your phone. Be sure to include images, words and phrases that represent how you want to feel when you have manifested your goals and dreams. Connect your emotions to it all.

3. Talk in the present tense, like it’s already happened. I don’t want to hear anything along the lines of “If…” or “It would be great if….” “I don’t know if it will happen, but….” CHICA. It will happen. It’s already happening behind the scenes. So talk as if you have it all right now or it’s happening. Not “if,” but WHEN. ;)

4. Be grateful for what you DO have and what you are currently doing. I know, I know…you’re probably like, “SAY WHAT?” I know this is a hard one, but seriously, be grateful and show appreciation for what you do have and are currently doing. No matter how crappy, show up every day to work, your apartment, etc. like it’s the best thing ever and be ready and willing to give your 100%. This causes magical, karmic alignment and the Universe then is ready to provide when you’re appreciative of what you DO have.

5. Believe. Believe in yourself. Believe that you can achieve your goals and dreams. Cause you can. Always hold firm in the belief that you are amazing, you can and WILL achieve your goals and dreams and have the full capability to achieve all that you want to in your life. Your life is an unwritten script, a blank chapter, an un-molded piece of clay (anyone else get an image of Lucille Ball molding that clay in the one I Love Lucy episode??) Surround yourself with people or a community that believes in you and reminds you daily of your greatness and badassery.

SO. Which tip will you tackle this week? Which ones do you already do? Comment below! I can’t wait to hear from you!